Not worth it. Shes open to becoming friends eventually and she even said she would probably need at the very least a year to even consider getting back together, but thats ok. What do I have to acknowledge in order for me to understand how she expects me to say or do or act. He left for italy 1 month after getting together and we talked for 6 months. He cant look me in the eye, and when I ask why he says he feels so guilty. Its miserable spending everyday of a relationship already knowing hes going to leave and having a countdown in my head because it happens every single time. Sorry so long. Anything I can do? Then i decided to tell her i am alone. So I think the counseling should be a good move provided the counselor doesnt just say mhm but actually has tools and opens you up to further thoughts. But now, your new gf is also insecure because of what happened to her in the past. I just want a fresh start for my life. I work while he stays with our kids at home. A few months after the incident we resumed our relationship. I Just wish he had been honest about everything. The grief process will take you through stages where you'll lose and regain your faith. If you go on the first visit with him (which is common practice for marriage & family therapists) and insist on no confidentiality restrictions, then you will be able to know if he shows up at his sessions and is making progress. Its a messy situation. I Have spent the last 15 on antidepressants. Until these funny things get 110% cleared up, I would not trust him no matter how nice he is to you. That is reason #2 for a therapist to help you. So now we have a big problem. It's understandable that you might hate the fact you did it, but you can learn from it and from how you feel. She went on Facebook and messaged my girlfriend and told her that we saw each other and had sex, but we didnt. I have been with my boyfriend for about 7 months now. And the same question can be asked of his up and down feelings. I truly hurt my boyfriend by texting and flirting continually and lying covering it up and deleting messages.I told him I was sorry I needed outside validation to feel good about myself but Im working on doing better because I dont want to hurt him and I truly love him and could have a great future together.i need help .Im going in circles,this pain Im feeling now ,is how I know he felt everytime I lied .I cant take it back but Im willing to do the work because hes worth it. What.kind of stuff is that i been dealing wit it for a while n nw im juz fed up. she was so in love with me that i didnt realise that one day her feelings might fade.She says she has lost feelings for me but now ive learn to love her so much more.Is it possible for her to come back to me? This was before we met though. So I decided to talk with him about his new woman. He still said he loves me, but he enjoys spending time with her. I Was speaking to some other guy that I know & he got mad & didnt want to speak to me , I was sad , because I missed him. Heroin is the worst drugged Ive seen him go through things and Ive heard stories and its very scary out there. In fact it was only Saturday night when my fianc told me it was over. You'll even realize one day that there's a love out there stronger than what you're feeling now. This broke my heart because Ive put and given up so much for her and always said this was forever, but to realise she doesnt feel the same way broke me! Please see a therapist to unravel this. I am in agony. Long story short. He believes his actions show his love, yet I have always questioned myself as to whether he really loves me. I went into this marriage expecting to be his partner but instead I began to feel like his burden. I dont see myself with anyone else. And, in return, I treated him like he was worthless. My gf and I were together almost 5 years and had a son together. i have been with my partner since i was 15 yrs old (18 yrs GOING INTO 19 YRS) we have also lived together since that age too. How do I save this? Sexy = appealing. My fiance and I have been together for 6 years now. She politely declined to zip some tea which I understood because she indeed very tired. Please help. He said I had to work on me, and to not focus on him. Soon after that, she broke down, genuinely apologized and begged for forgiveness. Confusingly enough, she has been meeting up with my family and friends back home as they all adore her and she loves them and it makes me wonder why she is still keeping contact with them. He was very worried about me and I understand that, but he was also worried that I would cheat on him. What does it explain? If hes not sure about her, he may abandon both of you anyway. Next, you say that if you do divorce, you will try to get custody. My husband and I have been married for 10 years and have 2 wonderful boys. Eventually my husband walked into the office & put his hands on the back of the chair; leaned towards me & growled in a cold, hard voice that He had hated me his whole $*#@%@! She is denying it and he admits it. I found out two days ago that my girlfriend has cheated on me for a week for her coworker. I want to rebuild trust for her to fall in love with me again, I know it will take time. Now he doesnt speak to me and says its my fault because I put him in the box for few hours. Before you have complete trust, he will be able to explain why he used to do it and why looking at other women means zero to him now. he even has blocked all contacts with me. He had asked for a break several times over the last 8 months or so but I had always talked him out of it. He of course made lies saying they saved on his phone and that his friend Rick had sent the message. After that he said we can be friends maybe more as what we had was amazing. consumed me. His wife tried to call me and I never pick up. WE literally had a wonderful six months before this one fight. Thank you. I ferl list in my professional life as well and feel like maybe im just taking it out on my relaitionship? I get so irritated myself that she wont tell me why she is irritated that I just keep asking get until she screams at me to leave her alone. Fighting and nagging dont work. Once you enter your information, youll be directed to a list of therapists and counselors who meet your criteria. Hi Shena But she wont accept my forgiveness. How can you possibly fall in love with such a person again? What do we do? Way. There are books you can read, too, to help. Of course Ive been tested and done all the practical things but the guilt is why I suffer because he is a wonderful person and did not deserve that. She wont give me a second chance. i know he wouldnt do it again but has betrayed me and disrespected me in front of family and friends . Then a month later his grandfather died and he was really close with him. But it still hurts when she sits there on her phone, or when she goes out for a girls night and seems to not want to spend time with me. Of course he doesnt c it this way. He got promoted then just then decided he only wanted to be friends. So you get the best solution: Fall in love with the guy you WANT HIM to be and then tell the real person to change into that guy. Hi Betty, This situation may be your wake-up call to take care of yourself. be im scared she might reject me, shes a beautiful, comment. But I say a good love is one that casts you into the wind, sets you ablaze, makes you burn through the skies and ignite the night like a phoenix; the kind . After 6 months she began to pull away and it freaked me out. The worries? I didnt know how to handle all the tough times with him losing his job and being lazy and depressed so I nagged at him which created more arguing. When we first met and also 3 years into the relationship she loved me then but then saw changes in me. 15 First Date Ideas When I said this is what therapy is for an objective outsider, I will add that a therapist is a competent objective outsider. I do not believe this can be accomplished without outside help. One night he asked me to install Skype so that he could see me He told me he misses me even though we are not in a relationship, he keeps repeating how beautiful I am We ended up doing virtual sex I know maybe this is controversial but I feel good in having this strong connection with him and I like to know that he feels attracted to me and not to anyone else. Since depression is a condition that can vary from day to day, that active side of pain can be the driving motive. I am devastated. It might also be worth it to talk to him. Just for adding a childhood friend. (Of course, you need to check on the competency and that is a different article.) 4. I returned home to Denver after 2 months of being here on a tour with a band I linked up with and made arrangements to meet up with my ex-girlfriend for lunch. I have been in this relationship for 8 months. Over the course of our relationship we will talk about our future plans and how we see ourselves ending up together. Meeting my husband had set me in motion into becoming a independent, healthy individual after 10 years of neglecting myself. 5 months into the relationship I found out he was messaging other girls when we were only dating for 3 months, when I confronted him about it he begged and pleaded and after a couple of days apart we spoke about it. I was so shocked & numb that I couldnt comprehend what I had stumbled on & desperately wanted clarification. I made him try to do everything for me. I just dont know what to do. More clear about life in general? He told her he missed the good times. I have begun to change my routines, I am trying to bring the romance back, I am trying to change the way I think, and I have my first counseling session set up for this Friday. He sent me an email. He is trying hard to make time but the business doesnt give him a break. Heres why: The falling in love kind of love, not the familial love that you have, say, for your parents or children, is about receiving. give him time ? If he wont listen, maybe you can write him a nice email explaining how you now see your mistake. Originally we decided to be completely monogamous, and we have been since that decision. Her father found out what I had done and told me He would not tell her but I needed too so I agreed that I would. On this SoundAffect, Megan Hayes speaks with Bakari about cancel culture, the most valuable . How can i repair the emotional damage that i have caused? What should I do? And the only way I know of to change them is trauma-based therapy such as I practice. Or, you could have lied about finances, friends, your whereabouts, or anything at all. Im so hurt right now. She expressed an interest in giving him oral sex, and since weve talked about trying things outside the marriage, I consented. You have to accept that things happened and you can't do anything anymore to change them. Cheating involves a lot of hurtful secrecy, so you'll know he wants to make things work with you if he's suddenly more open, honest, and genuine than ever before . her in 2 weeks time and spend the weekend with thanx, Hi im only 18 I know Im young, but 3 years ago I met this amazing girl. I met this man early 2012 we were staying in the same complex things started all as a joke ad time went on I was advise that he was married I asked him he refused and as time went on I literally believed him as he will stays here in Pretoria but his family is from Mpumalanga. Hi Robert He is with no one now . I know I have feelings for him because just the taught of losing him makes me sick and after everything hes done I still choose him over any other guy. as of now everything I say she says she doesnt want to talk until I get it. Ive been with my boyfriend for 3 years, and in the past I cheated on him, I kissed this guy because I felt like I wasnt getting attention from my boyfriend, I know it was wrong and I wish I could take it back. I know I did not handle it right myself. And I just let out what was necessary. If your fiance is confused, there has to be a reason. Toxic messages are verbal abuse and verbal abuse is traumatic. I give you credit for being able to look at yourself and to admit your errors. He gets defensive and aggravated at me. I took leave at the end of 2013 & went to work at my husbands business, doing administration for him when I stumbled across our high mobile phone bills on a shared contract. We were high school sweethearts. So heres the thing: Falling in love is great but we dont stay in love for all that long. He says its not my fault that he just wants to see what other people are like and travel. He gave me a right to go to Mpumalanga if I want to and I never really bothered as I trusted him. Truly blessed. I have been dating this guy for a little over 3 and half years and we got off to a rocky start a few months into our relationship when my ex decided all of a sudden after not speaking to me for 6 months just had to be back in my life and showed up at my house trying to talkI made a point to be sure to tell the current bf because I didnt want to lie to him, well because I was very open with him about my past relationships he was not to thrilled and since has had some major trust issues. Its Maria Dr. Deb and I answered your question about how could he have GROWN TO NOT LIKE ME? 3 years ago when we first began to get to know each other, he hurt me really bad. Hi Raquel, Getting to the video is easy. I dont want to hear you should have never done that in the first place. We had a lot of fun and great moments spent together. I have since told her that I have forgiven her (although Im still trying to reconcile my true feelings). We have been together 6 years. I made a mistake months ago when we had just started dating but he hasnt forgiven me since. In plain English, this means your ability to exercise logic and reason is switched pretty far off when you're in love with someone, but if you hate them, you can exercise better. Is it even saveable? please, Hello, I have been in a relationship for five years with a man who has been my best friend for over a decade. Im im a relationship for 2 years now. but we still communicate and LOVE is still strong. He met someone there and he talks to her and spends time with herthey are involved. Something about his confidence was a compete turn on for me. Its rather amusing how these steps outlined in the article are exactly, and I mean exactly, where I am today. Hi M A large range of beneficial traits to produce your online going out with adventure pleasant. I have been more the patient I have given him help offered support and tried to get him to quit. Good Morning Dr. Heb, She told my wife. I still have feelings for her but i think she still does too but she the Ok our relationship of going bad only my fault. I need advice. the arguments and quarrels between us got worse everyday. Suddenly, her love turned to hate. Should I be concerned that he seems to loose his mind when he receives sexual attention from women? I just want to die, anything but imagine him touching someone else. Hes not closing the door on us but we each have our own work to do, etc. Started doing activities with them and really enjoying myself. The forgiveness has to wait til the healing is done and therapy and meetings are the solution. Even I apologized to him a lot of time. so I told myself that if he is married I will see his wife coming time went on I feel inlove with him he used to go to Mpumalanga 2 weekends a month I never minded as he had a daughter there who her mum passed on. I really didnt think that my husband we get upset but he did and was completely embarrassed. The other person in the relationship must open up as well and be able to act like themselves. Not so simple, it seems to me. I found out just how much about a month ago because I looked at the phone bill (we still share a lot of the bills). My boyfriend and I recently separatedabout 3 1/2 weeks ago. Part of me says how do you walk from a man youve loved for so long. This is not a real relationship; this is someone taking advantage of you. She said she needed to take two steps back, that she felt I needed time to figure out what I want, etc. Its all so complicated as the other guy had told his wife also that hes had enough and thinking of seperating. Maybe a Gestalt therapist, CBT. If so, THIS is the healing you must first work on. I no longer appreciate little improvements, all of the things that would have meant so little to me years ago are now major issues. This past summer, as my departure to travel neared, my boyfriend became sort of controlling and we argued a lot (we had always argued a lot, but this time, even more). Your irritation is going to make her bottle things more! I would love to show I was wrong in the beginning for ignorance. Mom idealized the ex wife and son likely feels like a failure in moms eyes. I was upset that he went out with his friend who treated me really badly a few years ago. The answer is: betrayal. New years eve was the worst I cried through the ball drop, he said it was my own fault I was upset, and then he finally admitted that his therapist suggest we spend time apart. Hes hurt me so bad and he wont even talk to me or answer questions that I have. He didnt seem to like that very much. I reacted in ways I shouldnt have and ever since then we have been arguing mainly about her. You have a heart and soul; everyone does. We dated for around 6 year (not including a year that we broke up two years ago). I feel like such a fool no matter what happens next. Hes falling out of love with me and Im trying so hard to comprehend this difficult fact seeing as I treat him wonderfully. Night before she texts me that its formal. So cold, angry and unforgiving. I see all these things and I cant talk about them. From his point of view I betrayed him and from my point of view he betrayed me and the children. Note that i do not call her. Can he fall back in love with me and not want to get a divorce. It is supposed to help you get those feelings back. Im not sure why it needs to I fell in love with him since 6 months ago was not straight away we have been having a physical relationship for nearly 2 years! Hi Phil, It was me all the time. Apologizing wont cut it because this insecurity and lying are something that is in you. I did something pretty messed up, I made a fake facebook account and sent him a request to see if he would accept it. I have promised to try and change the ways I have become so mired in, and told her that I realize that these are just words, and that I hope my actions can speak on their own. I need help. I eventually grew out of that, or so I thought. i love him should i just keep proving myself to him or just accept its over? "People like you if you win and hate you if you lose. I ended up realizing I wasnt just angry, I was fearful. I slowly over come it but it comes back now and then. I had already been through a couple of long and unsuccessful relationships which both failed because ultimately neither of those men treated me with respect and both of them ended up being abusive in the end of each relationshipand even through all of that I never cheated or disrespected them when I was in the relationship with them. He has been and so far will always be the one for me. We had our petty fights, but nothing serious until we had a pregnancy scare. First of all, I respect you for recognizing that you mistreated your girlfriend. Then about a year ago we met up again and started to become intimate but I stopped it because I felt terrible. Not a shared bottle of champagne to toast to our future. I believe we both just want to be happy together but things are so complicated.Im losing hope. And I said I was there for two weeks and they said thats why he blocked me. We were even engaged at one point but he took the ring back because we were butting heads so much. It really hurt me so bad too. Someone this emotionally unavailable for you is very selfish. My boyfriend and I met 2 years ago, I fell for him first sight. I reached out to him to let him know that Im angry, but I still love him. I did a lot of research and listening to my husband and he continually spoke out every thought to me on why he wasnt attracted to me anymore and how I would react if he cheated or he left. as he texted him on facebook. Im afraid that if I insist on this topic he ll start to feel guilty and pulls away as he did in the past. Wow. If he continues with the AA or whatever special dependency counseling he has and a high quality therapist, he could make very good progress PROVIDED the rules are clear and no one (including the therapist) enables him. Hes just so amazing his name is Brad hes so handsome and loving, funny, sweet but very ignorant he thinks people are out to get him. So you have allowed one person into your inner world, in the course of being together, and each step of the way you felt understood. I hate it, I do not know how to fix it anymore. It has felt like I held the whole thing together. Will he ever talk to me again. Quotes tagged as "loving-someone" Showing 1-30 of 127. The fact that he didnt hear the phone next to his head, and at he did things knowing I might have a problem is what made me feel disrespected. have been married for 9 years we have done allot to each other emotionally I would tell him to go because so he would not listen to me it put a lot of stress from both of us I would go out and he would go out he would come home drinking without you he would just ignore me thought he didnt love me you have kids together and I want to find the way he told me that he a lot of love with me now and the 8 months I want to find a way to maker of work or marriage work I still have feelings for him and I only actually found this out after we were separated how much I really do love him and miss him that I need him in my life and I want him in my childrens life the friends that we have sometimes it seems like they wanted us against each other I dont know if its just me thinking that or maybe they really were. I am offering a course in this very subject, however, and you might want to inquire further. Shes obviously not in good shape where is she right now but i am definitely not falling for another trap. It very hard and fraustrated at first. During our time I have had a rough time dealing with his mom and his ex wife. And we did and he told me his heart wasnt in the relationship with her and he made a bunch of stupid decisions but he loves me so much and hes so sorry and he was a huge mess and told me he had been for a long time. I care about my business. THIS WOMAN IS OF STRONG CHARACTER AND FREE AS A BIRD BUT I FEEL SOME HOW SHE PERCIEVES ME AS CAGED.. Or have I become so lost, jaded, tarnished and hurt that my mind will not allow me to feel truth. we have tried a few times to get it back, but hes never seemed that comfortable with me and ive been very insecure so its made me hold back on the new me i want to be. we broke up like twice and now its been like I had a misunderstanding and people got in between us and I belived them on him and I broke up which made him lose feelings for me and he says that he loved me too much and got hurt too much so he cant get back to mecan anyone tell me or help me with what shall I do.. So much that your wife has taken full advantage of just how sweet, loving, forgiving and kind you are. But for many couples the hurt runs too deep, and there is nothing that is going to bring those feelings back for them, no matter how hard they try. Our problems began after 3 months of being together he cheated on me because he got mad at me so I broke up with him, but the next day I found out I was pregnant, and truly wanted nothing more than to be with him. But I feel where Ive grown and changed, he hasnt. I mean he swears that he does, but he really broke my heart by saying that to me in the first place. Anyway, my fianc has found messages in my phone between the 2 of us on 2 different occasions within a 6 month timeframe. Good luck! No one.. Help Im confused and really want to fix our marriage. i think i was under the impression i was relieving the pressure from my partner and supporting/helping.i fear i did wrong, she passed sadly 3 days after my partners birthday just before Christmas 2014, and January 1st he said i no longer love you. Since then (start of october) we tried traveling together for 3 weeks to nepal, subletting anapartment together (we got out of ours in october) and i cant seem to make it work, im restless, im crying every day a few times. She was claiming he had a son. Told him. I feel its probably a good thing for him to be in there right now. He did all of this and I still found things to fear in our relationship but nothing because he gave me a reason to fear it. That has been haunting you for a long time. And that draws you together. Your fear of losing him has lead to your pushing him away. but thats not an issue for me. Hi Marina, She already had trust issues, you knew this, and you chose to move because you felt your career as a musician was more important. I am in love with him.and relationships arent perfect but i know i messed up with handling my anger wrong. I also dont know if I should contact him. Mostly he doesnt remember disrespectful hurtful things he says because he was drunk when he says them and he thinks I am overreacting Its sucks because now he knows I am moving and doesnt want me to goif I stayed mad, it wouldve been easier, but now Im sad, so its hard. bring her to meet ur parents. So that is to your advantage as part of a couple: he would be a more mature and forward-thinking person. I told him that I definitely would not do what he demanded of me. DONT be needy!! I am sure readers of this blog may be tired of hearing me say therapy so much, but Ill say it again: I would like to recommend couples therapy. Once he calmed down I was finally able to tell him why I sent that text. You may perceive the giving and the dealmaking as a sacrifice or punishment. after having the baby the arguments continued because he spends most of his time away from home . We have been seeing each other nearly two years.. My heart is just with her but she was in the wrong place during our separations last year. That is understandable. Who's your supplier? Being disrespectful is not putting on the table what is bothering you. Dr deb But we seemed to make up everytime. I used to live with him, in his arms every night. I live in la area, she lives in Bakersfield and the only way she will let me see my son is if i come and stay with her and her mom but i sleep on the couch to see my son because if i dont i cant see my son and she wont let me take my son for the weekend. (Incidentally, if you dont see this, you do have to plumb the depths to find it. What is NOT appealing is being desperate. I really want to try and work things out any suggestions ? but he isnt doing that on his own like texting me or calling me. And now he wants to get engaged to me because he feels like thats what he wants to do but at the same time he does not have love feelings for me. So what is it youre receiving when you fall in love? The key word here is manipulation. Your bf is manipulating you big time. Then he had a tendency to want to have sex and Id tell him O,you just want my body. Im not even sure I loved him when I married him now. It may seem that the person you love hates you right now, but more often than not, they still care deep down. There will be new things in the you that has experienced all this pain: guardedness, healing, and newfound respect. Thousands of questions fill the mind of a woman who has been raped by the man of her affections. Before that, I had told her my ex contacted me and I was transparent about the details of our conversation. A bit of advice from me to you: We have had a few rough patches but nothing like this And I dont know how I am suppose to go about trying to get back to the way we were. She knows and apologized a week later in May. Do you have a fantasy of being her rescuer? The ex did a lot of really terrible things with manipulating them etc. So i tried to look past it. First thing to do is to have a frank discussion with your real boyfriend about his mistreatment. After some time , we met again and there knew him as a friend, not previously like boss/ colleague relationship. Weve been fighting a lot lately because he says I need to change the way I am, and to gain his trust. Even though he is doing everything in his power to show me his love I feel like the hurt and pain has made me numb. Earlier this week she said she didnt love me anymore and that she doesnt want to be with me ever again. I worked my way through these bills, going as far back as 2002 when they originally began texting each other. He will never be able to love me again. The can't-live-with-you-can't-live-without-you energy is exhausting especially for the people in their lives who have to deal with the constant ups and downs knowing that it's unlikely to get better. 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